How to Control Anger
How to Control Anger airplane conversationalists. Slow walkers. Mumbling talkers. Interrupters. Irritated?
Unaddressed “honey-do” lists. Buddies who just drop off a text thread for hours. That colleague who wants to high five every time they pass. Annoyed?
And don’t forget that guy who insists on saying “one more thing” for 20 minutes after you’ve postponed the meeting for lunch. Angry yet?
It’s alright, to say, “yes”.
If social media rants and YouTube videos are any indications, you’re not alone.
To get a clearer look at stuff, let’s take a short mental walk into an average American day. A few key statistics can sprinkle some light on how much anger really is an everyday experience for many of us:
We also continue our own anger by focusing on other people and situations, thinking the world and those in it “should” be different than they are, negatively judging what we don’t admit, and thinking everyone should adhere to our wishes because we know best.
This creates all kinds of relationship issues. Wanting to burn out, saying, or doing mean things, or observing other people, things, and situations as enemies won’t bring you, love. In fact, your anger-based actions can land you in jail or locked up in a sentiment prison of feeling separate and isolated.
What to do when angry
1. Start counting 1 to 100.
This looks pretty basic, but it works. Thinking about something other than what’s making you Sad for 100 seconds can help you avoid blowing a fuse. It gives you a chance to collect yourself and your feelings before you do anything else.
2. Release your energy
Exercise is an outstanding way to let off steam. You could take a walk around the square, go for a run, or do something really high-energy like boxing.
3. Use imaginary: visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest will not relax you. Imagine your breath coming up from your “gut.”
4. Keep Silent
When you’re steamed, you may be tempted to let the bitter words fly, but you’re more likely to do harm than good. Act your lips are glued shut, just like you did as a kid. This moment without speaking will give you time to collect your thoughts
It’s natural to get touchy when you’re criticized, but don’t fight back. Rather, listen to what’s underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved.
It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don’t let your anger—or a partner’s—let a discussion turn out of control. Keeping yourself calm can keep the situation from becoming a ruinous one.
I personally suggest going out after the conversation and express the feeling alone. If you are a self-talker then talk to yourself and let your aggression come out.
Later Think about the conversation that you had, think practically how much the opposite person matter’s to you, when you are calm then go and correct him if he/she is wrong, if not accept your mistake and keep your points front. In this way, you can handle the situation better and not make it complicated.
Anger Management in a Natural Way
When you get rid of anger’s emotional energy, you get back to yourself, your heart. You’ll feel more loving and support yourself with honesty, kindness, and pity. Difficulties you’ve built with others will come crashing down and your relationships will be real and healthy.
Each time you own and deal with your anger physically and constructively and accept what is, you create love. It’s hard at first. We’ve got our pride. Our ego is great and we feel so justified. But it works. It’s effective. Natural. Fast.
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